I’m not a big fan of many of the Feminist Blogs posts I’ve come across - suffering from habitual ranting, in the sense that they are reactionary and angry. Any possible constructive point gets muddied with arguments ad hominem, and often fail the reversal test. While anger, outrage, exasperation at social injustices are understandable, they aren’t productive. We all have opinions - some we hold strongly - and we are all prepared to shout angrily against our detractors, but the loudness of one’s voice is not proportional to the merit of one’s argument.
Having said that, I spotted an astonishing article on AskMen.com entitled “Etiquette Of A Gentleman”, that was linked to via Lifehacker. The list of rules of etiquette included
- Always open doors (for a lady)
- Put on her coat
- Help with her seat
- Give up your seat
- Stand at attention
- Give her your arm
Coincidently, I had just come from reading a Pandagon’s take on holding doors for a women, which pointed out that holding doors open was no longer practice as a patronizing part of man-woman etiquette. It amazes me that such an anachronistic guide could be published without irony, and of course the position of a “gentleman” is squarely in this world of the past where holding doors open is a meaningful gesture of gender relationships.
For the record I hold doors open for men and women, and occasionally unintentionally forced people to run to it by holding the door from an unreasonable distance.